Sexual arousal in men is a complex process. This includes the processing of external information (what the stronger sex sees and hears), psychological readiness for sex, anticipation of pleasure and the immediate physiological reaction of the body. How this process occurs in guys and how to speed up arousal is useful for every woman to know.
Where does it all begin?
The beginning of excitation is laid by a variety of sensory stimuli. The smell of a girl, her kisses and touches, external appearance (especially without clothes) stimulate centers in the brain that transmit a signal to the genitals through the nervous system.
Hormones are involved in this process. Dr. John Bancroft, an American sexologist and part-time 4th director of the Kinsey Institute for Sex Research, claims that the level of testosterone in the blood determines the degree of a man’s excitability. This conclusion was made as a result of a study, the results of which were published in the Journal of Endocrinology in the article "Endocrinology of sexual arousal. "
As a result, an erection occurs. This is the filling of the cavernous bodies of the penis with blood. The muscles contract and prevent venous outflow, due to which the penis becomes hard, enlarges (on average 3-4 times), and pulsation is felt. Often such a reaction occurs within a few seconds after sexual stimulation. Interestingly, during foreplay, an erection may weaken and strengthen again - this is absolutely normal.
The British Journal of Urology International published a study conducted among 20 thousand men. The sizes of their genitals were measured. Men from around the world took part. As a result, it turned out that the average penis size at rest is 9. 16 cm, and during erection - 13. 12 cm.
There are three types of erections. One of them – nocturnal (spontaneous) – occurs without sexual overtones. The other two accompany sexual arousal in men.
Psychogenic (or psychological) - occurs against the background of excitation of centers in the brain. Nerve impulses are transmitted to the spinal cord, then along the nerves to the reproductive system.
Reflex – appears as a result of touching the penis. Since this organ has many nerve endings and its skin is extremely sensitive, even light touches can cause irritation and blood flow to the penis.
In addition to an erection, a man’s pulse quickens, his breathing becomes faster, and his blood pressure rises (as in the female half of the population). The scrotum becomes thicker and may become denser, and the testicles rise. The upper body turns slightly red. A lubricating fluid is released, facilitating the passage of sperm through the canal.
What turns men on?
In addition to a beautiful picture (a naked woman, or dressed in lace lingerie, dancing, seductively lying, etc. ), foreplay plays a big role. Men also need it to make arousal as strong as possible. The surest way for a girl to turn a guy on is to stimulate his sensitive areas. These include:
- Head, neck and chest;
- Belly (especially the lower part) and back;
- Genital organs and surrounding areas.
Foreplay begins, in most cases, with kissing. A passionate kiss from a girl can already cause an erection and put a guy in the right mood. There are many nerve endings on the lips; in addition, he feels the sexuality of his partner and anticipates upcoming sex. At this time, the occipital area can be stroked with your hands; this area is also very sensitive. Many men like it when their earlobes are kissed and bitten, but you need to be careful with this, as there are those who categorically do not like this process.
The lower abdomen is an excellent area for caresses prior to oral sex (from the navel down). The back is suitable for erotic massage. By the way, it can be done not only with your hands, but also with your lips, hair, and bare chest.
With the genitals, everything is clear - any movements in this area are welcome and cause sexual arousal in men. You should be wary of sudden movements; guys may be afraid for the safety of their dignity. Blowjob, manual techniques - all this maximizes the desire of the partner. Nearby areas include the inner thighs, which can be caressed with your hands.
Representatives of the stronger sex get excited quite quickly. But they need more time (from several hours to a day) to rest and fully recover after sex than women, since the process takes a lot of energy from them. Therefore, repeated sexual arousal may not occur quickly for all men, and this should be treated with understanding.
Sexual arousal in men
When you see a partner who is sexually attractive to you, you become aroused first psychologically and then physically. But how this happens is a little-known question for most people. What does science say? She considers arousal to be a physiological sexual response.
Or rather, its first phase. That is, a whole series of processes. They do not have gender differences: increased breathing and heart rate, the appearance of muscle tension, increased blood pressure, increased salivation, dilated pupils, the appearance of redness and goosebumps, as well as erection of the nipples.
With sexual arousal, psychological behavior, gaze and voice change. This is due to the release of hormones into the blood, which act on the body like a drug. In men, in addition to the above, there is an erection of the penis, a rise of the scrotum to the pubis, its swelling and thickening, as well as the release of pre-ejaculate to lubricate the head.
In women, additional lubrication occurs, thinning or, conversely, enlargement of the labia majora (depending on whether the woman has given birth or not), clitoral erection, rise and enlargement of the uterus, tension of the pubosacral muscles, and an increase in the length of the vagina.
By the way, if in men redness of the skin is observed in rare cases, then in women a rush of blood occurs not only to the clitoris and labia, but also to the chest and back. In some women, this flush is so noticeable that during and after orgasm, the area between the chest to the shoulders and neck may even become scarlet.
Why are there so many reactions? They are associated with a rush of blood, which the body performs in order to achieve greater sensitivity of the genital organs, and readiness for the second phase in the cycle of sexual reactions - sexual intercourse. After the arousal phase there are: a plateau phase (sexual intercourse), an orgasm phase and a phase of completion of sexual reactions.
The arousal phase may not occur. This is often a physical rather than a psychological problem. Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is a disorder in which the strength of an erection is insufficient for sexual intercourse. There are three types of impotence: psychological, organic and mixed.
In most men, erectile dysfunction is associated with the organic form due to various diseases. The most common causes of this are cardiovascular diseases, diabetes and hormonal disorders. The quality of blood supply to organs and hormonal levels are disrupted.
With some diseases, bad habits, taking certain drugs, especially those affecting the central nervous system, and a sedentary lifestyle, the blood flow to the pelvic organs is weakened, which is why the main reaction of sexual arousal in a man does not occur - the filling of the cavernous bodies with blood.
Drugs, alcohol and smoking affect not only the physical, but also the psychological state, which is why impotence goes from an organic form to a mixed one. You cannot delay this situation; at first it can be easily corrected. You need to see a urologist or sex therapist.
Men become sexually aroused much more often than they achieve orgasm. Long-term abstinence can cause serious harm to the body in general and the genitals in particular. Women’s favorite motto "we’ll excite you and won’t let you" is good in moderation - you shouldn’t overuse such entertainment. Sexual dissatisfaction seriously affects not only physical but also mental health. The man becomes nervous, angry, irritable. Regular orgasm is an important condition for the normal functioning of the body. And there is practically no difference in how it is obtained - during sex or masturbation.